Twinkling lights, party invites, and candy cane stripes; known as the cuffing season, the coming holidays bring about nostalgic thoughts of snuggles next to a warm fire. Not only does the holiday season bring with it a plethora of opportunities to find that cuddle buddy, but single men are pursuing more women this time of year.
Studies have shown that men are actually more anxious about being alone during the holidays than women. This also means that they are more active on dating sites and apps right now. So, swipe away girl!
You definitely don’t want to limit yourself, though. The holiday season offers an array of opportunities to get to know new people. Take advantage and get out there. Whether it’s a guy or a wing-woman, you never know who you might meet!
If you get invited to a holiday party – don’t decline because you haven’t found an escort. In fact, going solo might just work in your favor. It may be tempting to ask another friend to join, but when you show up alone you’ll be more approachable and more likely to approach others and strike up a conversation. Easier said than done, right?
Here are some simple tips. When sidling up to someone for the first time, keep it light. Give them a compliment or make a light joke about something you’ve noticed. Ask them an easy question about themselves like: How do you know the hosts? And always remember – people love talking about themselves.
Seasonal soirées aren’t the only places to investigate a new interest. Volunteer at your local community center, or if you celebrate Christmas, at the local tree lot. Help out at a food pantry, senior living center, or homeless shelter. You’ll be a step ahead of the game, as you’ll know that your fellow volunteers hold at least some of the same values as you do.
There’s an array of sporting events to enjoy during the holiday season. Head to a restaurant or watering hole and cozy up to the bar to cheer on your favorite team. You just might connect with someone who’s a fan like you – or start a friendly rivalry! Even if you’re not keen on football, basketball or hockey, you can still appreciate the company. This is a great opportunity to ask questions about the game you are watching – who doesn’t love showcasing their knowledge?
Don’t limit yourself to just talking with men – open yourself up to making girlfriends! You are not the only single woman looking for a man later in life. While some of your friends are likely at home with their kids and husbands, this is the perfect time to make some new acquaintances and meet some wing-women.
The holidays are a time of inclusion, not isolation. Take advantage of what’s out there to get to know new people and expose yourself to new experiences. Even if you don’t meet a future beau or close friend, you will have expanded your horizons by doing something new. Have an open mind and leave your expectations at the door. The perfect someone – male or female – just might be waiting for you on the other side.