It can be hard to be in, or re-enter, the dating world during the holiday season. It’s often a busy time of year, with shopping lists to check off, decorations to put up and holiday parties to go to. You want to find that special someone to share the season with and beyond, but you have no idea where to start.
Keep perspective. It’s important. While it may seem like everyone around you is in a healthy, happy and loving relationship, chances are that’s far from the truth. In reality, there are plenty of single adults You’re definitely not alone in your dating experiences, or possibly even struggles. The key to dating is to stay positive, be realistic, manage expectations and to be open to what comes your way.
- If you’re looking to find love, here are some things you need to keep in mind.
In spite of many bad relationships, a great relationship IS possible. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been “unlucky in love.” All that matters is that you take the steps necessary to build a healthy, loving relationship. It’s important to take different steps than the ones you have taken in the past. Being open to the right relationship is key.
- You don’t have to have the relationship your parents had.
Regardless of the example, that was set for you, or the worldview of past generations, your life and decisions belong to you. Choose how you will go about your relationships instead of blindly walking through them and trying to emulate the way your mother approached her own relationships. You are your own person and your relationship is yours and yours alone.
- Being together makes you a better person.
When you find the right person, your relationship will grow deeper through the good times and the difficult times. Going through tough times together will help create a more intimate connection.
- Find someone who understands your “quirks.”
When you find “the one,” he will accept you completely – despite any weird or strange personality traits or quirks. In fact, he will love you because of those things because they are what make you who you are.
- You can only have a great relationship when you don’t need one.
We’ve all heard the adage that the right relationship comes when you aren’t looking for one. It may sound cliché, but it’s true and worth repeating. You will only find a healthy relationship when you are comfortable being alone and aren’t reliant on a relationship for your happiness.
As you navigate the world of dating, it’s important to remember these dating truths. It can be easy to get frustrated or give up. But, as long as you keep perspective and practice patience, you will find the one for you.